There's something about eating pizza and drinking McFloat at 2AM.

17 July 2012

Last night I went to my friend Dianne's house for Niel's birthday celebration. Dianne's house has been our official go-to place for group projects, rehearsals, sleepovers, mini parties, and just plain hanging-out since high school, and it's good to know that even after all these years, some things never change.

Dianne, Aiza, Niel, me
Most of our other friends weren't able to go because of work, pretty understandable as it was a Monday night. Anyway, we craved for different kinds of food so we called for delivery then went outside to buy more.

Sunshine, Hi-Power choco tabs, Nerds | Bacon Cheeseburger and Pepperoni pizza from Pizza Hut
Monster McFloat from McDonald's
We stayed up all night until almost 3AM just reminiscing, talking about a lot of things and catching up on what's new with our lives. I really cherish moments like this, not only because they have become few and far between, but because these people are the friends who've always been - and will always be - there for me no matter what. They keep me grounded, and I know that whenever things get a little bit too crazy I can always run to them for extra support and a tight hug. But if something happens and I'm the one at fault, I can also depend on them to tell me the cold hard truth and at times, to tell me off and talk some sense into me. 

During these crazy changes and transitions that are happening around us, we need true friends to remind us where we've been and where we want to go. A lot of of 'friends' can steer us towards the wrong direction so, as my other good friend Ed said, it's important to have a core group of people you know will be there for the long haul. I found this from an article in Thought Catalog and related too much with it that I share it with my friends/ chums/ acquaintances when the situation calls for it:
You’re going to lose touch with a lot of your friends. With some people, it will be expected but with others it will feel like a punch to the stomach. No friendship is truly safe in your twenties. You’re undergoing so many personal and professional changes that there’s bound to be some casualties along the way. Don’t worry though. You’ll end up with the ones that matter. If someone’s no longer in your life, it’s for a reason.
I sometimes ask my friends jokingly why they update Facebook very rarely and don't have Twitter accounts, and then I realize that our friendships have started waaay before these social networking sites were even invented so I shouldn't let the fact that they don't update me with every minutiae of their lives bother me that much. I read somewhere that the more social networking sites there are, the more lonely and disconnected we feel. I don't know about you but I've been feeling this more specifically these past couple of weeks. I'm not saying that Twitter-friendships can't be as good as see-each-other-in-real-life friendships, but you have to admit it is sometimes hard to discern other people's intentions if you just see that online persona they've created. (Of course I am blessed to meet some great and awesome people online, whose friendships I will be forever thankful for. But there are some instances wherein that's not the case.) Simplest example off the top of my head: I could type "LOL" here now and put dozens of emoticons but you wouldn't really know if I'm giving even the slightest hint of a smile. LOL.

I know my posts sound morose these days. I am not depressed, but the past two months have been riddled with lots of changes for me and the people around me so I'm just trying to ride these waves out and come out standing in the end. That, or maybe life has been full of epiphanies for me lately, on who I was and who I am becoming. Life is a constant case of figuring things out, and as long as I am with true friends while I'm in this journey then I am good with that.

Please know that there are much better things
in life than being lonely or liked
or bitter or mean or self-conscious.

We are all full of sh*t.

Go love someone just because,
I know your heart may be badly bruised,
or even the victim of numerous knifings
but it will always heal,
even if you don't want it to
it keeps going.

There are the most fantastic, beautiful
things and people out there,
I promise.

It is up to you
to find them.
(via)

8 comments:

atUgis said...

Krissy,what a very inspiring blog. To be honest, I haven't seen my school friends for years now. I miss them a lot. Again it's my abnormal working schedule. But this blog helped me realize that friends really are the wealthiest investment in life. Dahil jan, I'll start contacting them and schedule a get together!

Claire said...

Being twenty-something sure brings so much changes. I've been going through lots of changes as well. Oh, so much adjustments to make!

Here's to getting though! Cheers Krissy! ^_^

Kym said...

 What would life be without friends.. true friends! :) I love this post, it's quite timely as my best friend (remember Sharon?) moved 15 hours away from me but i'm confident that our friendship will remain strong :) Smile Krissy! Through all the changes in life, your true friends will always be there :)

Megann Monday said...

I sooo understand this post. I haven't been seeing my friends in a while. It takes us forever to schedule one meet-up. I guess social media is both a blessing and curse. Or maybe it's just the Internet in general. I've found that I spend way too much time online practically doing nothing. Hahaha. But since my work does involve social media, I try to take a day on the weekend off from all of this just so I can "live" in reality. It's always great to know though that some of the friendships we formed can still remain intact and strong despite the distance or the lack of a proper "bonding session". True friends are golden :)

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krissy said...

Good luck to us! Cheers! :)

krissy said...

Aww yes I remember Sharon. But no worries Kym, I'm sure your friendship will be able to withstand the 15 hour distance! :)

krissy said...

Hear, hear :)

Rick said...

I love your hat, and that you have such a good core group to depend on and be dependable for.  It's amazing how much being needed can affect our lives...who we are.